This a happy story that will make you smile.
A girl attended a top high school in her state, and ranked in the middle in her grade no matter how hard she tried. She had one more year before she took the national tests for college. She and her parents were very anxious about her future. Since her mother was a family friend, I agreed to spend a half hour with her and her mother.
After talking to them, I have realized how stressful a student's life could be these days -- more classes, more homework and more competition. Her teacher asked all of her students to study till 12:30 am, yet the school started 8 am in the morning. The girl could only sleep less than 7hr, which was not enough for someone her age. Her father become so frustrated about her "long hours" of sleep on weekends that he went to his room to smoke. The girl felt somehow ashamed that she had not figured out what she wanted to be. Her main way of relaxation was to take breaks, which is not enough to relax from her intense stress.
I saw great potential in this girl. I first told her mother about the connection between her sleep and her memory, so her father would support her sleep. To help her spend time efficiently and sleep more, I went through her daily schedule, and showed her more ways of relaxation and exercise. The girl was very relieved when I told her that was normal for someone her age to look for his/her dream. I encouraged her to look for inspiration from
successful people in Forbes and other books. We also discussed other issues.
Two weeks later, I have received an e-mail. Her mother said, "After talking with you, my daughter begins to exercise 20 minutes every day. She feels her brain gets smarter. In addition, she also rests more efficiently. In a recent test, she jumped 40 spots in grade rankings!"
A half hour for 40 spots jump -- I am certainly pleased. This is a good example of how a human mind, body and inter-relations with their external and internal worlds are one integrated system. Improper standards of the teacher and parents as well as the girl's confusion limited her performance both externally and internally, which also stressed her more. Poor stress management and poor health maintenance further worsen her performance and stress. Years of studies have proven that stress can damage our thinking, emotions and health. By strengthening each part, we have taken the person to a whole new level.
The girl still has more internal and external limits to uncover and more potential to set free. In the meantime, she and her parents also need to learn more about how to preserve her potential. Unexpected change, stress, illness and injury in life could disable her mind, or even take away her potential and achievement. The mother and daughter will attend our executive synergy program when I go back there next time.
All of us can jump some spots in existing rankings by strengthening every part of our integrated system. The mother and daughter have taken the successful steps before us.
A girl attended a top high school in her state, and ranked in the middle in her grade no matter how hard she tried. She had one more year before she took the national tests for college. She and her parents were very anxious about her future. Since her mother was a family friend, I agreed to spend a half hour with her and her mother.
After talking to them, I have realized how stressful a student's life could be these days -- more classes, more homework and more competition. Her teacher asked all of her students to study till 12:30 am, yet the school started 8 am in the morning. The girl could only sleep less than 7hr, which was not enough for someone her age. Her father become so frustrated about her "long hours" of sleep on weekends that he went to his room to smoke. The girl felt somehow ashamed that she had not figured out what she wanted to be. Her main way of relaxation was to take breaks, which is not enough to relax from her intense stress.
I saw great potential in this girl. I first told her mother about the connection between her sleep and her memory, so her father would support her sleep. To help her spend time efficiently and sleep more, I went through her daily schedule, and showed her more ways of relaxation and exercise. The girl was very relieved when I told her that was normal for someone her age to look for his/her dream. I encouraged her to look for inspiration from
Two weeks later, I have received an e-mail. Her mother said, "After talking with you, my daughter begins to exercise 20 minutes every day. She feels her brain gets smarter. In addition, she also rests more efficiently. In a recent test, she jumped 40 spots in grade rankings!"
A half hour for 40 spots jump -- I am certainly pleased. This is a good example of how a human mind, body and inter-relations with their external and internal worlds are one integrated system. Improper standards of the teacher and parents as well as the girl's confusion limited her performance both externally and internally, which also stressed her more. Poor stress management and poor health maintenance further worsen her performance and stress. Years of studies have proven that stress can damage our thinking, emotions and health. By strengthening each part, we have taken the person to a whole new level.
The girl still has more internal and external limits to uncover and more potential to set free. In the meantime, she and her parents also need to learn more about how to preserve her potential. Unexpected change, stress, illness and injury in life could disable her mind, or even take away her potential and achievement. The mother and daughter will attend our executive synergy program when I go back there next time.
All of us can jump some spots in existing rankings by strengthening every part of our integrated system. The mother and daughter have taken the successful steps before us.
Bin Yang
Dr. Bin Yang: Founder of The Prince Synergy, a leading resource that focuses on optimal human potential, success and sustainability. Its hands-on training has been featured in Forbes, and beaten Harvard's. It has been listed as a top expert in stress management and change management. For more information about this 4-day Executive Synergy Program and other programs, please visit http://www.ThePrinceSynergy.com
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