Actively Listening To Your Child- One Of Essential Parenting Skills
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Bercle George
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Published on 06/27/2008
Communicating with our children can be a hard task at times. We feel like they are not listening to us; they feel like we are not listening to them. Good listening and communications are essential parenting skills to achieve success.
Communicating with our children can be a hard task at times. We feel like they are not listening to us; they feel like we are not listening to them. Good listening and communications are essential parenting skills to achieve success. Your child's feelings, views and standpoints have worth, and you should make sure you take the time to sit down and listen openly and converse with them honestly.
It seems to be a natural tendency to react rather than responding. We give verdict based on our own feelings and experiences. To understand it well, responding means being receptive to our child's feelings and emotions and letting them to convey what is inside themselves openly and honestly without fear of repercussion from us.
By reacting, we send our child the message that their feelings and opinions are not valid and not acceptable. But by responding and asking questions about why the child feels that way, it gives chance to open a dialog that allows them to convey their feelings further, and therefore, gives you a better understanding of where they're coming from.
Domestic discipline stories can give us idea that responding provides you an opportunity to work out a solution or a plan of action with your child that may be they would not have come up with on their own. Your child will also appreciate the fact that maybe you do indeed understand what and how they feel.
It is vital in these situations to give your child your full and undivided and focused. Put down your newspaper, stop doing dishes, or turn off the television so you can hear the entire situation and make eye contact with your child. Keep calm, be inquisitive, and afterwards offer potential solutions to the problem they may have encountered.
Do not discourage your child from feeling upset, angry, or frustrated. Our initial instinct may be to say or take action to steer our child away from it, but this can be a detrimental technique. Again, listen to your child, ask questions to understand why they are feeling that way, and then offer potential solutions to alleviate the bad feeling.
Just as we do, our children have feelings and experience difficult moments. By sincerely listening and participating with our child as they talk about it, it shows to them that we do care, we want to help and we have almost the same experiences of our own that they can draw from. Again, remember, respond do not react.
It seems to be a natural tendency to react rather than responding. We give verdict based on our own feelings and experiences. To understand it well, responding means being receptive to our child's feelings and emotions and letting them to convey what is inside themselves openly and honestly without fear of repercussion from us.
By reacting, we send our child the message that their feelings and opinions are not valid and not acceptable. But by responding and asking questions about why the child feels that way, it gives chance to open a dialog that allows them to convey their feelings further, and therefore, gives you a better understanding of where they're coming from.
Domestic discipline stories can give us idea that responding provides you an opportunity to work out a solution or a plan of action with your child that may be they would not have come up with on their own. Your child will also appreciate the fact that maybe you do indeed understand what and how they feel.
It is vital in these situations to give your child your full and undivided and focused. Put down your newspaper, stop doing dishes, or turn off the television so you can hear the entire situation and make eye contact with your child. Keep calm, be inquisitive, and afterwards offer potential solutions to the problem they may have encountered.
Do not discourage your child from feeling upset, angry, or frustrated. Our initial instinct may be to say or take action to steer our child away from it, but this can be a detrimental technique. Again, listen to your child, ask questions to understand why they are feeling that way, and then offer potential solutions to alleviate the bad feeling.
Just as we do, our children have feelings and experience difficult moments. By sincerely listening and participating with our child as they talk about it, it shows to them that we do care, we want to help and we have almost the same experiences of our own that they can draw from. Again, remember, respond do not react.